Breakup Advice: Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke – or, if it is

There's not enough glue in the world ... Dr. McDonagh and I receive a lot of emails and posts at State of Anxiety from heartache sufferers who could've and should have completely avoided their relationship pain and melee to begin with. Why?? Because the object of their affection was broken. It's inherent in our nature to want to 'right the ship' and repair what's not working. That's all fine. Unless what's not functioning comes with genitalia. Then it's always best to leave the broken pieces where [...]

Breakup Advice: Go ghost

I’d like to address a timely trend we are noticing within recent emails and posts sent by breakup sufferers. It’s related to the premise of “going ghost” following a breakup. It’s not a tool to make your ex wonder what you’re up to, or a component of gamesmanship. This is a self-preservation tactic designed specifically for you. Going ghost is the single best method of preventing regrettable acts. You cannot be remorseful if you have not taken any action but to be still. But, this [...]

Breakup advice: The breakup advice that can prevent the need for … breakup advice

To greatly increase your odds of avoiding a breakup, there is one commonly overlooked tactic to implement before getting bounced from your union: BOUNDARIES. And, if you've just experienced a breakup, it's never too late to leverage the mystic power of boundaries. Keep reading. When someone contacts State of Anxiety seeking breakup advice they're often in the early stage of breakup pain, while experiencing an emotional cocktail of shock, disbelief, sorrow, and a roofie of anxiety. This period is further laced with an overriding sensation [...]

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Breakup Advice: Why all the now?

                   The time is always ... Now As you might have noticed during your breakup advice search, there seems to be a focus on “living in the now” to help survive a breakup.  Sound breakup advice will include a consistent and straightforward message. Part of that message will include the premise to "Stay in the now:" Don’t drift, don’t let your mind wander, and don’t start eating that pint of ice cream and wonder how you got to the bottom of it so [...]