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Grab Your Coat – it’s Breakup Season!

This is the time of year that Americans pack on a pound or few, while a quiet majority actually loses weight. Like an average of an entire boyfriend/girlfriend. Fall is summer’s hangover. During summer we are often busy with vacations, events, outings, and cruising through the long, action-packed days of our relationships. Any musings whether or not we want to stay with someone are filed away for later appraisal. Come November, when we set the clocks back, a disproportionate number also set their relationships back [...]

By |October 12th, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|0 Comments

20 Stealthy Mental Filters That Are Sabotaging You (as seen in “Success Magazine,” October 2017)

There is no upside to negative thinking. It does not prep you for life events, ward off malicious mojo or prevent worrisome outcomes. It does the opposite. It also causes face furrows, addictions, mental disorders, insomnia and heart disease. Most of us unknowingly use automatic thought distortions (aka, mental filters) to subvert ourselves. When we stop, we become models of happiness, positive energy and efficiency. A mental filter is one type of cognitive distortion. It is a biased way of thinking about ourselves or the [...]

By |October 10th, 2017|Main Blog, Uncategorized|1 Comment

Tackling Teen Anxiety (as seen in Diablo Magazine, June 2017)

A Fremont native’s new book helps parents of teens struggling with anxiety. BY LOU FANCHER When he was 13, Jon Patrick Hatcher began cutting himself, and he wrestled with years of substance abuse and panic attacks. As his parents struggled to understand him, they decided their son would benefit from professional help. Talk therapy—and Hatcher’s instinctive sense of humor—were key to helping him accept, acknowledge, and manage his anxiety. Decades later, Hatcher, who got an M.A. from Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo, met Thomas McDonagh, [...]

By |July 6th, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments

I Don’t Feel Like Peopling: 10 Ways to Slay Social Anxiety (as seen in Reader’s Digest, June 2017)

At home and on social media, you’re an extroverted badass. In public, you become an isolationist dodging eye contact and handshakes, with a tendency towards agoraphobia and a general excitement over cancelled plans. Your favorite party trick is not going. What is Social Anxiety? The most common of all the anxiety disorders, social anxiety is an extreme fear of being scrutinized and judged by others in social or performance situations. A little social anxiety is normal for everyone. However, when social anxiety becomes abnormal, it’s [...]

By |June 21st, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Stressed, Anxious, or Depressed? The world can harsh your chill (as seen in Justine Magazine, May 2017)

As seen in Justine Magazine - April/May 2017 Only 35 years ago, anxiety did not exist as a diagnosis. Today it’s the most common form of mental illness. But ours is hardly the first troubled era humans have endured. Our predecessors bore much saltier times such as Black Death; World Wars I and II; The Great Depression; Slavery; and that time all the dinosaurs went missing. Prolific news and social media can have us drowning in gloom. The only winners in this unhealthy [...]

By |May 21st, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments

Birthed or Bought: A lesser-known Mother’s Day perspective

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day for the adopted individual can feel more substantial than for the average accidentally conceived “John” or “Jane.” I don’t purchase many big-ticket items – and, never do I buy things site unseen. So, the premise of procuring a little person this way makes my head spin. Returning from visiting my mom in the hospital this week afforded me some inescapable solace during the long drive home. I pondered the time I've had with her, and was overwhelmed with a sense of [...]

By |May 11th, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|0 Comments

RELATIONSHIP STATUS: Sleeping diagonally across the bed

Some relationships end quietly in mutually flowing tears, while others terminate in a volley of profanities and Tupperware®. Men are often oblivious to the underlying signs preceding a breakup. We’re guys – the gender caught fornicating pumpkins in well-lit fields. I was completely blindsided to my worst breakup. It sucked the air from my chest as I patted my torso searching for an entry wound. Relationships are an expensive way to watch someone slowly like you less and less. I taunt you with my emptiness. [...]

By |October 19th, 2016|Advice Blog, Advice Slider, Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments

The sky is falling … right?

Today’s Anxiety Threat: “High” Only 35 years ago, anxiety did not exist as a diagnosis. Today, it’s the most common form of mental illness. Why? Ours is hardly the first troubled era humans have endured in history. By way of example, our ancestors bore many salty times such as The Crusades; Black Death; World War I; The Great Depression; World War II; The Cold War; The Cuban Missile Crisis; slavery / racism; The Vietnam War; The War on Terrorism; and all those missing dinosaurs – [...]

By |July 27th, 2016|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|0 Comments

101 Ways to Conquer Teen Anxiety

101 Ways to Conquer Teen Anxiety is a funny and significant resource for any teen experiencing anxiety, and currently available at major retailers such as Barnes & Noble, Target, Walmart, and Amazon, or here: Ulysses Press. Nationwide surveys report that today's teens feel significantly more stressed than any other generation. Whether they face problems with school, friends, parents, or all of the above, teens will find a wide variety of easy, stress-coping methods in 101 Ways to Conquer Teen Anxiety. Based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), the most [...]

By |July 23rd, 2015|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|0 Comments

MAN: Like a woman, but not as strong

Men don’t get a lot of compassion – not as a gender, not toward one another, and not toward ourselves. We are the more impulsive, less refined gender that has not progressed much since our cave-dwelling days. We have learned to use and appreciate toiletries since then, however, and we pretend to enjoy chivalry and using a fork. If there are lingering doubts regarding the lack of evolutionary progress by man, I welcome you to any men’s gym locker room where one can catch a [...]

By |July 1st, 2014|Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments