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Breakup Advice: Emotion regulation

Are there "good" vs. "bad" emotions?? It's a little known fact that there is no such thing as a good or bad emotion. I think this is a good place to start, especially since we tend to “feel bad” about “feeling bad.” Don't. Emotions simply are what they are; we just attach a good or bad label to them after we experience them. There are plenty of reasons why we do this: Societal messages, religion, family values, pharmaceutical commercials, our efforts to try and make sense of [...]

By |June 15th, 2014|Advice Blog, Advice Slider|0 Comments
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Breakup advice you need. Now.

Breakup without breaking down State of Anxiety is a website dedicated to helping you through a breakup in an unprecedented manner. It's practical breakup advice and humor unlike any other - and, with huge results. If you've already done an Internet search and landed here, then you know there are more than a few tons of useless resources out there - especially for women. And, if you've been lucky enough in life to dodge a bout of anxiety up till now, a breakup [...]

By |December 3rd, 2011|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|2 Comments
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Breaking-Up Badly

It is common knowledge that breakups are the heart’s equivalent to getting stabbed in the crotch with scissors. To the recipient of walking papers from a relationship, even the brightest, most sunshiny day can feel like a canker sore. And, barring the passage of time, there is no single effective cure for the gut-wrenching angst associated with heartache. The typical breakup is comprised of a series of standard stages through which everyone progresses in roughly the same manner. However, the “actions” associated with each stage [...]

By |September 6th, 2011|Dating, Main Blog, Main Slider|610 Comments
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What’s Under His Suit? Depression and Anxiety (as featured on the PsychCentral website)

Let’s get candid about male mental health. Men don’t get a lot of compassion — not as a gender, not toward one another, and not toward ourselves. We are the more impulsive, less refined gender that has not progressed much since our cave-dwelling days. We’ve learned to use a salad fork since then, however, and we pretend to enjoy chivalry. Sadly — and perhaps due to our ruffian status — men are often perceived as an expendable lot, regularly sent to do life’s dirty work [...]

By |July 7th, 2018|Advice Blog, Advice Slider, Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments
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ANXIETY: Find the Humor, Find the Cure (as featured on the ADAA website March 2018)

The first time I saw a flameless cigarette lighter anywhere but a car was on an enclosed patio wall of the Oakland psychiatric facility where my therapist had sent me due to anxiety and depression. Smoking was the only vice afforded to us. Though even while despondent, I wasn’t interested in adding nicotine to a budding alcohol addiction. Perhaps I had hope after all. He who has a why to live can bear almost any how. – Friedrich Nietzsche I left triage a few days [...]

By |March 6th, 2018|Advice Blog, Advice Slider, Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments
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20 Pros & Cons of Social Media Use (as seen in “Success Magazine,” December 2017)

My generation grew up in an era not known for leaps in technological advances. The lack of fun, lithium-ion powered iThings forced us to engage in antiquated traditions like going outside, socializing or reading. On the upside, living offline allowed us to keep screw-ups to limited audiences. We also experienced less bullying, anxiety and depression than later peers. Today, we often perceive anyone who shuns social media as old or out of touch. However, they might be the most mentally fit among us. In reality, [...]

By |March 6th, 2018|Advice Blog, Advice Slider, Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments
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Grab Your Coat – it’s Breakup Season!

This is the time of year that Americans pack on a pound or few, while a quiet majority actually loses weight. Like an average of an entire boyfriend/girlfriend. Fall is summer’s hangover. During summer we are often busy with vacations, events, outings, and cruising through the long, action-packed days of our relationships. Any musings whether or not we want to stay with someone are filed away for later appraisal. Come November, when we set the clocks back, a disproportionate number also set their relationships back [...]

By |October 12th, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|0 Comments
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20 Stealthy Mental Filters That Are Sabotaging You (as seen in “Success Magazine,” October 2017)

There is no upside to negative thinking. It does not prep you for life events, ward off malicious mojo or prevent worrisome outcomes. It does the opposite. It also causes face furrows, addictions, mental disorders, insomnia and heart disease. Most of us unknowingly use automatic thought distortions (aka, mental filters) to subvert ourselves. When we stop, we become models of happiness, positive energy and efficiency. A mental filter is one type of cognitive distortion. It is a biased way of thinking about ourselves or the [...]

By |October 10th, 2017|Main Blog, Uncategorized|2 Comments
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Tackling Teen Anxiety (as seen in Diablo Magazine, June 2017)

A Fremont native’s new book helps parents of teens struggling with anxiety. BY LOU FANCHER When he was 13, Jon Patrick Hatcher began cutting himself, and he wrestled with years of substance abuse and panic attacks. As his parents struggled to understand him, they decided their son would benefit from professional help. Talk therapy—and Hatcher’s instinctive sense of humor—were key to helping him accept, acknowledge, and manage his anxiety. Decades later, Hatcher, who got an M.A. from Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo, met Thomas McDonagh, [...]

By |July 6th, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments
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I Don’t Feel Like Peopling: 10 Ways to Slay Social Anxiety (as seen in Reader’s Digest, June 2017)

At home and on social media, you’re an extroverted badass. In public, you become an isolationist dodging eye contact and handshakes, with a tendency towards agoraphobia and a general excitement over cancelled plans. Your favorite party trick is not going. What is Social Anxiety? The most common of all the anxiety disorders, social anxiety is an extreme fear of being scrutinized and judged by others in social or performance situations. A little social anxiety is normal for everyone. However, when social anxiety becomes abnormal, it’s [...]

By |June 21st, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|0 Comments
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Stressed, Anxious, or Depressed? The world can harsh your chill (as seen in Justine Magazine, May 2017)

As seen in Justine Magazine - April/May 2017 Only 35 years ago, anxiety did not exist as a diagnosis. Today it’s the most common form of mental illness. But ours is hardly the first troubled era humans have endured. Our predecessors bore much saltier times such as Black Death; World Wars I and II; The Great Depression; Slavery; and that time all the dinosaurs went missing. Prolific news and social media can have us drowning in gloom. The only winners in this unhealthy [...]

By |May 21st, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments
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Birthed or Bought: A lesser-known Mother’s Day perspective

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day for the adopted individual can feel more substantial than for the average accidentally conceived “John” or “Jane.” I don’t purchase many big-ticket items – and, never do I buy things site unseen. So, the premise of procuring a little person this way makes my head spin. Returning from visiting my mom in the hospital this week afforded me some inescapable solace during the long drive home. I pondered the time I've had with her, and was overwhelmed with a sense of [...]

By |May 11th, 2017|Main Blog, Main Slider, Uncategorized|0 Comments
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RELATIONSHIP STATUS: Sleeping diagonally across the bed

Some relationships end quietly in mutually flowing tears, while others terminate in a volley of profanities and Tupperware®. Men are often oblivious to the underlying signs preceding a breakup. We’re guys – the gender caught fornicating pumpkins in well-lit fields. I was completely blindsided to my worst breakup. It sucked the air from my chest as I patted my torso searching for an entry wound. Relationships are an expensive way to watch someone slowly like you less and less. I taunt you with my emptiness. [...]

By |October 19th, 2016|Advice Blog, Advice Slider, Main Blog, Main Slider|0 Comments
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